Perspective

This last week the subject of a young 17 year boy that was killed has been the talk everywhere. I don't ever comment on things I don't know about or know only bits and pieces of some of the facts. The fact of the matter is that I have been consumed with my own life, I honestly have only gathered what I have from Fox news. Let's be real, they don't really portray my kind in the best light. However no, I am not blind nor am I ignorant to the ways of the world I live in. Even before this unbelievable crime, I think people forget with all the accomplishments us as black people have made in recent history that we are barely a good 2 generations out of Jim Crow. My Grand parents lived it. My mom lived it. Living in East Texas during the 40s & 50s. Its so easy to go through life hustling and moving and partying and being young to not realize that just like my grand mother was on the receiving end of hate. Their are people still living amongst us right now that were delivering the hate. Just like my grandmom taught her children compassion, kindness and forgiveness. Its people that taught their kids the opposite. The after effects of that can be felt TODAY. I had a co worker tell me once that we wouldn't need welfare if it wasn't for all the black people on it. I shut her ass up when I let her know that black people are only about 12% of the population. I made her look it up. You would think when making a dumb ass ignorant statement like she did she would have her facts in order.

The point I'm trying to make is that the fight is long from being over. Especially when you have situations like when a grown ass man feels "threaten" by a little ass black kid with NO weapon. Makes him beg for his life. Shoots him dead. While completely ignoring police orders. In a deep south hick town in Florida. Where the cops dont even follow procedure in a homicide investigation. Where they probably still fly the confederate flag in all government buildings. (OK the flag part is just me saying. I have no proof of that. But I'm willing to put money that some government buildings down there still fly them!) Now I'm no artist, but I think I just painted a clear picture as to why this man is still walking the streets.

I'm just one person and this is my perspective of the world

The Break-Up

As much the hopeless romantic I am (I think because I'm a girl), my Capricorn brain tells me that love is always relative. That means that it is what it is or it ain’t what it ain’t, especially when it comes to relationships. Now when most people speak on love and relationships you think
boy/girl friend or marriage. I'm talking about friendships and family as well. These are the first and, most often, the longest relationships a person has in their lifetime. They create bonds in one’s childhood that groom them for adulthood. Good, bad, or indifferent; sometimes being loyal to one’s detriment. It’s crazy, because in a dysfunctional intimate relationship, everybody and they mama want to tell you just how much better you are than the other person and how you deserve better. How you should get away or how the other party is bringing you down. However, in a friendship, it’s just the opposite. No one tells you not to be friends with a person anymore. Unless a total trust violation occurs (Example: Sleeping with ones mate). You are kind of expected to stay BFF’s for life. No matter where your life takes you, what happens, or how dysfunctional the friendship becomes; you just except that it’s just the way it is and has been regardless if it’s right or not.

I'm a strong believer that a friendship, just as any other relationship, sometimes runs its course; then it’s time to break up. Friendships don't have to last forever. Could you imagine still being with the person, you thought was so perfect in high school, now that you are in your 30s? Even after the trials and tribulations of being an adult have taking over them? Come on! I broke up with a friend once, (OK Twice! There goes that hopeless romantic again. Thinking I was maybe wrong! NOPE!), and all the drama they came with; all the crying, all the bullshit that just always seem to happen to them, and all the "why does this always only happen to me?’s. Guess what? It went away! They were toxic and frankly a headache. The good times became less about us, and more one sided. I wasn't able to share those happy times I was having with them in fear that I was going to be accused of throwing what I was doing in their face. Bottom line, it’s ok to break up a friendship. People grow. Not necessarily in the same direction. I don't judge anyone on how they live their life. It’s just when it comes to someone else's life infringes on your life, not in a positive way, it’s time to move on. There's a saying that if you’re the smartest person in your group, then you need a new group. I was in a meeting today and every person there brought something new, fresh, positive and creative to the table. It was amazing. It makes my decision to get rid of toxic people that much more valid.

I get every day is not a good one and we need great friends around us to help us threw the bad times that are bound to happen to us all; But when you began to bring on the bad yourself, it stops being a friendship and becomes a co-dependency. That's NEVER a healthy relationship Or Friendship!

Self Control - Use it

I want to express my thoughts on self control. Most of you follow me on twitter know that I have given up Beef, Pork, and chicken for Lent. Its been really hard for me, not giving it up, but having very little choices for quick food with the life style I live. I by no means enjoy fast food, but some times its necessary to hit a drive thru and grab something quick. I have almost gave in about 15 times. I have exercised self control. Which is better than I can say about most people. My battle with the food I can and can not eat is nothing compared to things I witnessed this past month. People are so selfish that they can't see beyond the reach of their hand. Everything is instant gratification. Right Now Right Now Right Now! Not giving any thought to the consequences of the actions that they choose. Or even going ahead in spite of the consequences. Expressing NO self control.

I hate to preach. I hate to offer unsolicited advice. All I want people to do is THINK! With my situation with food, I think about how I would feel about myself if I don't complete what I started. I would feel like shit. For lack of a better word. And that's just my own personal guilt. Me not being able to complete this affects no one but myself. However some peoples actions aren't that simple and will affect a plethora of people, on so many different levels. Life is like a chess game. You have to think 4 and 5 steps ahead. Not just right now. Be warned, I will not speak to you after 5pm if you use the term YOLO or express no self control. That's "nigga" thinking.

At some point you have to grow and expand. Yeah on air you might hear CaliRadio joke and laugh and clown. But at the end of the day we are all about business and family and leaving a legacy for the people we love. That in it self takes great self control.

Thank You

I want to take a moment to thank all the readers of SeeBries blog and CaliRadio blog. I’m gonna be real open right now and tell everyone how much I appreciate those of you who listen to CaliRadio and read the blog and follow me on twitter and flow with the movement that is Caliradio. It’s crazy because I find myself encountering people at the nail shop or the post office and I'm putting them on the Cali Radio. Something that my personality would have never permitted before. I tell West West this all the time that I listen to the show as a fan of music. As a fan of the WEST. I'm a LA chick till I die. I have love for everybody that's about something. That's about getting money and about great music and having a good time. That's what got me listening to Cali Radio from jump. I am a fan of great energy. The energy that West, Slim, Party Man, & Grewsum send through my head phones every day is amazing. You can’t make it up. It’s completely authentic. I encourage any one that is a fan of having a great time and great music to listen to Cali Radio. Come hang out at Zen Lounge or follow the movement on Twitter or Facebook. Do a good deed and tell someone to tell someone to come and rock wit us. I promise you, it’s never a dull moment with Cali Radio.

Thank You