Choose wisely

Wow this has been an interesting week. My coworker got married back in May. He wanted me to take a look at his wedding pictures and pick one to give to the families. This is something that all newly weds go through. It took me months to figure out if I would make mini albums for them or give 8x10's to put in the living space of their house. It drove me crazy. He and his new wife had actually chosen a picture. The picture was of the bride standing kinda on display and the groom off in the back ground. Not really in the picture. My advice was to find a picture of them together, not kissing, not looking at one another, not with family, just them.

As wedding season comes to a close, many couples are faced with this problem. As trivial as it may sound in the bigger picture of life and marriage, it can become a hassle. This is the most important day in the history of your marriage. Although you have hundreds of moments captured on film, its only a few that can show, define, and sum up dept of the day. Those are the pictures that will stand out and be remembered by close family, children and grand children to come. To maybe one day incorporate your special day into their special day.

I chose to give mini albums to the parents and grand parents. Each personalized to include pictures of each respective family. No one had any complaints. I did however hold back a few pictures that really showed the sum of our day. The picture of myself and new husband mid air jumping over the broom that his mom made us. That's the moment that I want our kids to see every day growing up and remember when they get ready to have their own wedding day.

A Cricut and a Dream

Hello fellow Host and Hostess,

Hope every one had an amazing weekend. Staying cool and drinking plenty of water.

Well, I think some of you know me already. I am the official blogger for Caliradio. I am also a huge crafter and I love to entertain. This here is my introductory post for my SeeBriesBlog dedicated to home, entertaining, and crafting. I have been able to post on the CaliRadio blog about Summer entertaining, but SeeBriesBlog is solely to help the average everyday person bring out their inner Host or Hostess, and to make the most dull event come to LIFE. Every week I will be posting about the seasons, holidays, whatever crafts I am currently working on, and parties I am designing. I am a Creative Consultant. Party Planner seems too dry to express all of this fabulousness.

Before I go any further into advice or tutorials, I want to thank all of you for following and reading the CaliRadio blog, and continuing to follow me into my own endeavors. Thanks for giving this chick with just a Cricut and a dream, a chance to bring some sparkle to your next event.

Elephants for luck & crafting for peace

Dont Worry Be Happy

I want to kinda piggy back my last blog post. The American Dream last week was basically about being happy and content with your life. Having a home and a family is what most of us want out of life. Doesn’t matter how grand our house is, or if we both have to work or have the luxury of one of us staying home. I believe that if you love what you do and have a passion for it you will be in fact living the American Dream. Regardless if you make a million dollars or 5. Some people want nothing more but to create a beautifully flourishing flower bed. Some actually get a feeling of euphoria from arching the perfect eyebrow. I myself love to walk into a room full of people and personally make sure that each and every one of them is having the best time they have ever had if their life. My passion is to entertain. I don’t sing or dance but I can throw a mean party. When I met West oh so many years ago, this guy was pushing mixed cds out of the little room his dad left him when started to remodel the house. He has the amazing talent to just know what’s about to pop musically, before it does. He knew what song was gonna be “That” song before radio or anyone in the club did. I use to get all my music from him and he was pushing this one song on me. On every cd I got from him this song was on it. I had to tell him not to put that BS on my cds no moe! I hated the song. I didn’t want to hear it. Needless to say that this song that I hated was #1 the biggest song of the year that year. And #2 is now in my top 10 dance songs of all time. I go back to that moment when I thought to myself “damn am I dancing to this song?” when I see him now. When I see all that is happening with Caliradio it’s like wow you have to love what you do, otherwise it’s just a job. I think about my own situation, and remember being 7 years old having impromptu tea parties with all the little girls in the neighborhood, and telling my mom to cut the sandwiches just right because everything had to be perfect. Of course at my tea parties we had real food and real tea(decaf and Iced LOL).

My point is to live your life to the fullest. If you have a passion for doing something, do it! If anyone can’t get on board with it, fuck em, because if you aren’t happy with yourself, then that will reflect outward on every relationship, on your thought process, on your appearance. Then you will be looking for somthing that, hey you know, you may have had the whole time. I can guarantee if you don’t like busing tables, you will never be happy doing it. If you don’t like sitting behind a desk crunching numbers every day, you will never be happy doing it. Find what makes you happy and everything else will fall into place.

The American Dream

In Case anyone is wondering, I have been sober for 3 weeks 6 days about 8 hours as of right now. So let me know how this blog post works out for me. I've been in a little bit of a mood lately and I haven't had a glass of wine to take the edge off.

With all this sober-ness going on around here; it gives me time now that I'm not lushing around to; think, and read, and really pay attention to the things I watch. The things I let enter my space, I have to honestly say have become clearer now than when I'm having a glass (or bottle LOL ) of wine a night. Don't get me wrong I WILL drink again. Maybe later on tonight? I just think I require a little more attention, a little more for thought when addressing me because I seem to analyze everything around me now. Like if it was no BS before, now its NO BULL SHIT! I was watching a clip on the Internet the other day, it was Mitt Romney and he was giving a speech at a fund raiser held by John Schnatter. If you don't know who that is, it's Papa John. You know the pizza gazillionaire that puts the peppers and garlic dipping sauce in every box? Yeah him! I'm attaching a clip I found on the Huffington Post website I want everyone to just take a look at the 31 second clip.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/02/mitt-romney-papa-john-video_n_1471720.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

Mitt Romney says he looks around at Schnatters estate with a pool and golf course and that a Democrat would look at the estate and say that no one should live like that, but a Republican would look at it and say everyone should live like that.

Here's my deal, I have no doubt in my mind that this guy is a fuckin moron. You know I try to give every one the benefit of the doubt but really? Really? REALLY? Does anyone not see the delusions in that 31 second clip? I really don't want to see the full speech. I think that would send me over the deep end listening to this ass hole talk and say things that make no sense. You know I don't know anything about John Schnatters life other than he started selling pizzas out of his dads bar in like 1983. Which is great. To be able to grow into the grand corporation it is today. Great! Good for him, But I be damned if I'm gonna let Mitt Romney or anyone else brainwash any of my blog readers in to believing that Johns story is the only "American Dream". No its not. The American Dream is defined as follows - "life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement". Do you understand how broad that statement is? I think everyone would love to live in a house like John's or like Mitt's. But that isn't the case. That isn't reality. The reality is that someone has to drive the bus so our kids can get to school, someone has to be the police to protect us, someone has to willing to teach us, someone has to be willing to care for us if we are sick. My point is that some of us are very happy with being able to pay our bills on time, have a roof over our families head and be able to leave our children with a better life than we had. Everyone cant live like Mitt and John. Or party like Diddy and Jay. Its not fair, to especially the minorities in this country who do most of these jobs and have the ability to own a home, put their kids through college and maybe not have to worry about working till they are 80 years old; to make them think they are living anything less than the American Dream. It pisses me off that he thinks I am that stupid to believe that. We cant all inherit from daddy, or invent, or pass a ball, or sing like angels, or get into Harvard. Some of us have to go to West LA. According to abilty or achievement being a barber or garbage man or auto mechanic are all respectable professions.

Contrary to what Mitt Romney believes, everyone doesn't have to be just like me or him. Some of us will excell and do amazing things. Some not so much. Contrary to what the news media says America is not 1% and the other 99%. America has a top, a bottom, and a middle. The majority (Black White Hispanic Asian or whatever) just happens to fall in the middle. That's life! That's how its always been. Please don't let Mitt take away the middle with this "American Dream(Fantasy)" Bull Shit.

The American Dream is what YOU make it. Dont feel less than because you live in Inglewood and not in Bel Air, and it doesnt make your dream more vaild than mines if you do.

Cause We Like To PART-EHHH!

So how many of ya’ll had BBQ’s this weekend? The family came through. The grill was going for 8 hrs strait. The beer was flowing. CaliRadio was blasting through the speakers. Great way to kick off the Un-Official start to Summer. Summer is The best time to entertain. Between the Holidays and it just being plain HOT outside, vacations and family that you haven’t seen in forever coming around, it’s the perfect time to cook something simple, make some punch and lay out a plastic table cloth for easy clean up. I love to entertain. When I get a idea in my head, within seconds I can close my eyes and see the whole set up. From the colors to floral arrangements, to the way the food will be set out on the table or served to the food being served. And the best part is that I am one of few people I know that can execute this perfectly! One thing that I hate when I go to people’s houses for parties is that they are doing so much that they don’t get to host. They end up staying the kitchen still cooking or setting up when the guest arrive and don’t get to enjoy the party them self. I am gonna give a little advice to the amateur party planner.

First you need to Plan Ahead! Even if it’s a small dinner party the day of. It’s important that you allow enough time to prepare your meal and still entertain your guest. The biggest mistake is that the host will make a complicated dish and it will either take too long to complete or is not easily reheat – able. An impromptu dinner party shouldn’t be that complicated. We all have that one thing we can make with our eyes closed that’s always a hit. Go for it! Less prep and clean up time gives you more time with your guest. On a bigger scale party, Plan your menu. And don’t be afraid to take a few short cuts. If you are known for your famous baked beans and they take a little bit of time to make. Don’t feel bad about buying or assigning someone else to the bring the potato salad. Don’t feel bad about buying the already chopped lettuce or cheese, if your are making guacamole from scratch. Oh one more thing, get rid of the can sodas and bottled water. Anything less than 60 people, invest in a beverage dispenser or 2. A punch or Iced tea will eliminate the extra cost of cases of soda and water. Also try spa water. It’s refreshing and tasty, and will brighten up your table. Bottom line, make what works for you WORK!

On the brightening up the table note, I love love love flair! Not Décor but flair. Having a theme for a party is great, but I’m talking about those little extra add on’s. I believe that every woman should have 4 things in their house readily available. Flower vases, any kind of ribbon ( hair ribbon included), a plain serving tray, and candles. With those 4 things you can make the most boring table come to life. Add some color with the ribbon on the vase filled with flowers. Create a center piece with the tray and candles. The possibilities are endless. Put the ribbon on the bottom of wine or champagne glasses(plastic or not). Its little touches like these that your guest will remember.

Lastly, the entertainment for the party. You can’t have a party without music! Hey any outdoor party this summer, you have to have CaliRadio playing through the speakers. BBQ’s, Family Reunions, birthday parties, doesn’t matter. Especially on the weekends. On Saturday and Sunday CaliRadio is a 48 hr feed of DJ mixes. So you get continuous music. Its dope. No changing CDs, no switching play list on the IPod, No need to spend $300 or $400 for 4 hours for a DJ. CaliRadio will take you from cooking and setting up, well into your after party.

I so hope this helps with your Summer party being easy, efficient and fun. Don’t forget my invite! I love BBQ too!

Special Edition - Eat, Drink, and be Married!

Hold up stop the presses. This is totally a special edition of SeeBriesBlog. I never want to bore anyone with my radical views on life. I try to keep it simple with relationship topics, my first love – music, or the holidays. I do however want to write a disclaimer – My views on the following topic are not that of the CaliRadio Inc or any of the on air personalities. These are my thoughts and beliefs alone.

With that being said, first I want to address these half ass Christians that’s wasting space in the church pews. If you are not going to live by the very definition of being a Christian- “all that is noble, and good and Christ-Like” PLEASE EXIT STAGE LEFT! Now I’m not well versed in the teachings of Jesus H Christ(Sarcasm) , but last time I checked, the bible was broken down into 2 parts. The Old Testament (the torah) and the New Testament. And there would be no such thing as Christianity without Jesus’ preaching’s and teachings. Correct me if I’m wrong but Christians believe that Jesus was the son and spoke the words of GOD? Right? Right! Ok Jesus didn’t judge! Anyone! Not the whores, not the sick and shut in, the destitute, not even the people that crucified him. Not Judas, his boy who sold him out for 30 pieces of silver. So how can you as a “Christian” sit in church every Sunday and judge somebody for what they like or don’t like? The worst answer I have ever heard is “because it’s in the bible”. Let me tell you a little something funny about the bible. The bible is interpreted as the reader sees fit. As crazy as I may sound, I am a Christian myself. I think as myself as more progressive, but I believe in the teachings of Jesus and have from time to time read the bible. I read the bible as a learning tool. It gives me examples of situation to help me grow and be a better person. I'm a work in progress. The bible is not to be taken word for word literally. Not in 2012! I’ll let you guys in on another little nugget of information. The bible is always the escape goat for ANYONES persecutions against someone else. You can twist and turn the stories in the bible to fit the most asinine ideas. As with any teachings except for mathematics. This method was used against blacks, women, other religions, bottom line anyone not “Normal” and what your definition of “normal” should be. It bugs the hell out of me that people act like they don’t have the free will to think objectively or without any outside influences. God gave each one of us free will for sure, cause clearly he didn’t give everyone common sense. In any situation just ask yourself “How would I feel?” “How do I want to be treated?” or better yet “What would Jesus do?” . I guarantee that if people judged you for things you do behind closed doors, you would have a completely different perception on life. Another great excuse Christians use is “how am I going to explain this life style to my kids?”. I think that if you have to ask that question, it says a lot more about you than your kids. It’s speaks more about your own prejudice and less about your kids growing up to become productive members of society. A society which is vastly greater than the size of your house. I think people forget that the world is IN FACT bigger than their kitchen tables. Completely ignoring that someone gay could one day be their kids boss, teacher, friend or even the kid. Or hell the kids therapist growing up in a house like that. Clearly they are gonna one day need one. So to people that use religion as a tool to degrade someone else’s lifestyle, I say to you Shut The Fuck Up! I have many more points I want to hit, but the blog would turn into a book so I’ll move on.

If you haven’t guessed it by now, I am all for gays, lesbians, homosexuals or whatever being able to marry, and for it to be called Marriage. I still don't understand what the big deal is? Marriage between a man and a women aint sacred. Not when the divorce rate is above 50%. Not with post and prenuptial agreements. Not when the average length of a marriage is 8.7 years. Not when lonely men from almost every state in the United States of America browse “Mail Order Bride” websites. Not when Woody Allen married his adopted daughter it aint. Not with reality shows Basketball Wives, Who wants to marry a millionaire, The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Are you fuckin kidding me? Check this out! I don’t know what makes some people think they are so much better than others, that we all can’t have what they can have. I’m sick of this “Entitlement” bull shit. You aint entitled to shit. As soon as someone figures out that one thing they don’t like about you, they are gonna use it against you. Then you will be the one crying foul. Calling any 2 people willing to pledge their life to being together in a court of law anything other than marriage is fucking dumb. Can somebody please explain this to me? Someone I had a conversation with (that shall remain nameless) told me today “well what if everyone wanted to “marry” the same sex? Then it won’t be no more babies being made!” First of all, its comments like that from the people close to me that make me say “I hate a stupid mutha fucka”. If you read the blog, ya’ll know I say that a lot. Now you can really see what kind of people I’m dealing with here! That was THE most dumbest, un-thought through ignorant statement I think I have ever heard in my life. And I have heard some shit in my day. I said so you think just because gays can get “married” you are gonna want to marry a man? Because I don’t care how much a man tell me how good my pussy taste, I still aint gonna want to try it! Point – Match - Game!

My point is that everyone does not have to agree with me. Just don't force your views on me. We can just agree to disagree; but that's never good enough for some people. Those are the people that believe that their way should be law. You trying to tell me you can make it a crime for something as simple as who I love and what I do in my house?!? HELL NAW I aint havin it! Where will it stop? Science being banned from schools? Banning birth control? The elimination of the 13th amendment? I mean since we rewriting the constitution and all to define marriage. Come on!

This is an election year yall. Please don’t let the people in my family or the hypocritical members at my church be the only ones making the decisions about the way country is going to be run. I do have very strong opinions about social issues like gay marriage, drug policies, women’s rights, education and the biggest social issue to me is that American voters tend to vote against their own best interest. My Special Editions will be my views on various Hot Topics from now through November. You will be hearing a lot more from me. Stay Ready!

My Morn'n Time with Donnie B

First I want to apologize for no post last week. I was sick and I missed you guys. Good thing I blogged about Mothers Day the week before, because that blog carried us right through the holiday. I got a lot of great feedback about last week’s blog. I didn’t know just how clueless guys were about Mothers day and how to divide their time or gifts. Glad I could help. Any Who! Before CaliRadio came about, LA radio was kinda in limbo. I expressed how great radio was in Los Angeles for long period of time in a previous post. I’m not sure if it was the politics of the radio world or what, but those days are over. The days when you could mash down Crenshaw blasting the FM dial and it sounded like cool mixed tape narrated by Julio G or Theo. That’s why with CaliRadio broadcasting everyday, they gave me a little piece of that back. I don’t know about anyone else but when I listen to the radio, I fall in love with the personality just as much as the music. For a long time now I have been listening to Steve Harvey in the mornings then switching over to my guys DJ Cali Slimm and West West at 11am. That worked for me. Now I am not a board member of CaliRadio or anything, but I am privy to some inside information. I get a call from West last week , and he tells me to skip Steve and tune in to CaliRadio in the morning. All he kept talking about was this guy Donnie B from Dallas. Now my skeptical ass is looking at my phone like “Ok Sure”. LOL I am not a fan of newness. I’m more of a throwback type of chick. I will embrace the newness but it’s gonna take a lot of convincing. So I tune in. and can I tell yall. Donnie B, which I have dubbed “Mr. Already!” is fucking great! He had me cracking up the whole 2 hours. Between the music the news, sports, and to be holding the show down with no in studio supporting cast is amazing to me. It kinda helped that he sounds like my cousins so it doesn’t feel so new to me, but it definitely feels FRESH! He does something that a lot of shows don’t. He will go into details and commentate about sports. Or about the news, and have full on conversations about what’s going on in the world with Dynamite and Doc Do when they call in. When most shows has 60 seconds to do both. That shit drives me crazy! Don’t just give me the score, tell me what the fuck happen. He’s only on for 2 hours but he gives you a ton of music, news, sports, interviews and over all great time listening to him. The most important thing to me is that he is very aware of his listeners. He broadcast from Dallas, but he's aware that he has California listeners, among other places. I have listened to stations in other cities that stream and most aren't. Now I don’t know who or where this Donnie B guy comes from but he knows people! Monday he has a interview with Pimp C’s mom. Coming from a small station first broadcasting from Party Man James’ house to having interviews with someone as beloved and respected like that and people listening to them all over the world says a lot. He’s not preachy. Which Steve Harvey tends to be sometimes. He's real. I honestly think that he’s just like West and Slimm. A regular guy that happens to love music and has an extremely entertaining personality. And I love it when he says “ Already” ! Donnie B, My Southern Brothern, Welcome to the CaliRadio Family! I Salute you! I had cousins here from Dallas last year (who are super excited about Donnie B by the way) and the first thing they asked for when they stepped off the plane was some new great West Coast music. The only thing I had to do was direct them to www.CaliRadioShow.com . Now with Donnie B, CaliRadio has become a one stop shop for entertainment. But hey who am I? That’s one little Cali chick’s opinion. You have to tune in yourself. Just know I have never lead my readers wrong, and I aint gonna start now!

Happy Mothers Day

We all know Mother’s day is coming and it’s the time of year to celebrate the great mothers surrounding us. Our own, surrogate, auntie, Grandmom or otherwise. That mom figure in your life should not go unrewarded for her unconditional love she shows you all the time. Something as simple as a card or flowers will completely brighten up one Mother’s day. Remember when you were little and made your mom a gift? I don’t know about your mom but mines loves things like that, even now. Hell my mom would be grateful for all her kids to be together in the same room. (Aint gonna happen by the way) I’m just saying, it doesn’t take a lot to make your mom happy on Mother’s day. I am a firm believer that Mothers Day should be spent with ones respective mother. Ladies let’s not get upset with men if they want to spend time or a large amount of money on his “mommy”(LOL). I figure as long as the lights are on its ok to splurge a little on her birthday or mother’s day. Besides if it wasn’t for her, you wouldn’t have him; and if he is a good man, a big part of that is because of her. So cop a Mother In Law card, thank her for giving you him, sign it and send it with him, before you and your mom have your girls day. Even if you have kids, you guys can spend the holiday together, but let that man come to some kind of compromise. Most moms want to do them on Mother’s day alone. So guys, you and the kids might end up at Grandma’s house anyway. Guys if you have a baby mama, and you might not like this, but it is your responsibility to get “baby mama” a gift from your baby. Whatever the status of the relationship, if your baby is well taken care of, you need to celebrate that. No matter what the new chick says. That’s the mother of your kids, the new chick needs to STFU. So team up with the kiddie, make a card, have them sign it and send it on over to baby mama. And guys even in your new relationship, if your girl takes care of your kid like it’s her own, and put up with baby mama, make sure your kid acknowledges her too. If she is Step Mom material, let her know. Or you might find out that the babysitter you once had on the weekends when Jr would get dropped off, ain’t too available now. If you have older kids, talk to them and ask what they want to get their mother and do your fatherly duties and finance that situation. I’m not talking diamond earrings and Gucci bags or anything like that, but you need to make it happen. My niece and nephews get me a gift every year on Mother’s day from them. I think it’s because they know if anything happens to my sister that I’m the one that’s gonna take them in so they want to keep the evil aunt happy. LOL I think it’s sweet, not needed, but sweet. It doesn’t take a lot to make the moms around you happy. Sometimes even a simple Happy Mother’s Day will do. Happy Mother’s Day

Radio - Excite Me!?!

I was watching the Simpsons last night, and I don’t know if any of you watch the show but it was about Bart being kind of stuck in a rut and wanting a vacation. The beginning of the episode starts out with Barts daily routine. Waking up, breakfast, the bus ride to school, school, the way home, being home, and then the same thing on Tuesday. I starting thinking to myself that I feel like that’s what I do every day. Hell that’s what we all do every day. Who doesn’t want a long term vacation. Paid of course. You know the one thing that gets me through the day is turning on CaliRadio at 10:30. I’m gonna let you all in on a little secret. When West and Slim are not on air by 11:15am, if I don’t hear them, my ass is texting and calling like “what the hell is taken so long?” LOL I find myself awake and revitalized after the show starts. It’s like I can feel the music in me. You know I never got that listening to any other stations. I listen to CaliRadio then at 4:30 I’m in my car and listening to whatever and it’s the same 5 songs that get played. It’s so fucking annoying. Especially after a long day and it’s not even music I like. After listening to Caliradio these past months, I’m excited about music again. I tweeted a few weeks ago that I feel about music how I felt in 1995. E40’s In A Major Way, Mack 10’s Mack 10, and Dogg Pound’s Dogg Food all got released in 1995. Now Im hearing Paris Montgomery, Lars Young, Problem, and I have yet to hear a Iamsu song I don’t love. Kraze FAM Im Getting Fucked Up is now my new party anthem. It’s too many great new artist I can’t name them all. Because of CaliRadio I get to hear all Nipsey Hussle new music (My FAVORITE guy right now). I can’t get that nowhere else. Hell I wish I could hear Welcome to LA while I’m walking through the mall shopping instead of YMCA. I’m not knocking any ones taste in music but seems like CaliRadio is the only place that caters to what I like. Now I always do my research before I write about something. I did a little experiment on Saturday. I turned on the Xbox and logged into IheartRadio. If yall don’t know what that is, it’s an app like TuneIn and it lets you listen to almost all of the radio stations across the country. I scanned every Hip-Hop and R&B stations from Seattle to Tampa to Detroit down to Austin TX and I heard the same damn 5 songs! I did this for 4 hours while cleaning on Saturday. I heard Niggas in Paris, Drank in my cup, Teach me how to Dougie, The Motto, Moment for life, BullShit, BullShit and more BullShit. Don’t get me wrong if you like those songs or artist great but hell Watch the throne came out back in August. I feel like I wanna slap some music directors, like rap music is more than Jay Z. Its not exciting to eat steak everyday for the rest of my life. No matter how much I love it. On the bright side, it is New Music Mondays on CaliRadio. 

Its YOU

Look people, I am so tired of all these guys talking shit about us(women), then have the nerve to say “hook me up wit yo home girl”.  Guys here’s a little nugget of information I’m sure you have heard before – You get what you pay for. Meaning if you don’t invest time or money or some effort in to a woman, you won’t get a quality woman. This is the main reason you get them Ratchets and Low Life females that treat you like shit! Come on. The funny thing is, is that the main guys that put on that front like they will never pay for a date or buy a chick a gift are the same ones tricking off what little money they do get to get some ass.  Let’s not bull shit each other.  It’s some women that will put up with anything just to say “I got a man!”. Men always will take advantage of her. While on the other hand, it’s some women that will ONLY go after a man with money. Let’s be clear, those women aint worth a red cent.  I’m going to break down the dynamics of a “Traditional" relationship in 3 parts - Meeting, Courting, and Marriage. The man meets a girl. Determines if he likes her and wants to get to know her. Then with natural progression and time they get married. It was always the man’s role to provide for his family and the woman’s role to take care of him in return. That was all the concept of marriage was before. The most important part is that there was no sex before the man and woman came to this agreement. You promise to take care of me, I promise to give you sex -Boom! Bam! Pow! Marriage!

That’s all it was. Then at some point in time women started to give up sex without that promise or any promise for that matter and that’s where things got fucked up.  Don’t get me wrong I am married and I work, and we had sex before we got married.  If and when our relationship progressed to that next level was totally on me. I set the pace as to when and where our relationship was going to go. So when I hear guys and all this trash talk all I think about is who is actually opening her legs to you? What dumb ass broad (and yall know I hates me a dumb ass broad) is fucking you? Uhhhggg!  

 

Guys all I’m saying is it aint tricking if she’s worth it.  There is not any shame in spending money or time on a woman if she is worth putting that time or effort in to her.  Be smarter about it. Be respectful. Clearly women’s standards have been lowered in the last 30 years.  So I’m sure it don’t take much to make her smile.  Despite popular belief every chick is not ratchet, or a slut bucket.  Stop being cheap and take a girl out. No doing dutch. Spend $50 on a first date. Open a damn door. Tell her she smells good. Even if you get nothing(Sex) out of it. That’s the least you can do for a girl if you want her time. And ladies let’s stop walking around acting like yo coochie is the last one on Earth. I know entirely too many chicks that are beautiful, smart and have they shit together. And they gettin snatched up like a fresh pair of J’s out here. If you're single and think all niggas aint shit - Bitch it’s you. I have had too many great guys cross my path to think that. Hell even Grewsom made some young ladies Valentine’s Day special with only a $5 budget. Getting and keeping a great person is not that hard as long as YOU are comfortable with yourself. We are all flawed. No one person is perfect.  So the next time I hear anyone complain about the opposite sex I have one answer to ALL of their complaints –  It’s You!  

#TalkToMeInPersonSoIKnowItsREAL

I have said this time and time again. Twitter and FaceBook are great sources to promote business, network, and for my own personal use, which is to keep in contact with family and friends that I can't call or talk to on a daily basis. It somewhat keeps us present in each others lives, when a phone call or a email everyday might be too much. For example; my cousin that lives in Atlanta gets to travel a lot for work, and because of these social networking sites I get to hear and kind of experience these places along with her. Which I think is really cool. If I can't for whatever reason listen to my guys on CaliRadio when they are on, I can count on my twitter time line to keep me well informed. I do on occasion tend to use these platforms to state my own personal views on a subject. As I do with this blog. I never want to offend. My goal is always to enlighten. The problem with that is; I expect a lot from people. I give too much credit to people that obviously can't pay their mental or emotional bills. Or pay attention for that matter. Expecting people to just get it doesn't work. Getting frustrated with people because they don't get it, doesn't work. Especially on Twitter. As great a resource FaceBook and Twitter are, the people I'm speaking on are the people that beef and put their personal business on the sites. Social networking sites are not the place to air out baby daddy issues, or dispute your side chick status. If your girl won’t answer her phone no need to take to Twitter or Facebook to let everyone know how much of a whore you think she may be. Don’t bring your fancy and exciting life to twitter if all you do is in fact be on Facebook and Twitter all day every day. I have nic named twitter 'Far Far Away' and FaceBook 'Neva Neva Land'. I don't know if people think "no ones gonna see this post" or what? **News Flash** - We See It! If I know you personally and you post something on Twitter that I know is Bull Shit, I lose most, if not all respect for you. Starting beef on Facebook is worst then sitting there watching a chick take off her jewelry before yall fight. Dumb! That's more than enough time, space, and opportunity to slap that bitch dead in her face mid earring removal. I'm not saying that's something I would do. I am a grown woman so nothing should come to blows, but I'm just saying.

I'm not a big fan of William Roberts (Shout out to The Real Rick Ross - I hate having to put "The Real" by the way) but he does have a line that I absolutely love "Fuck a blog dog cause one day we gon meet". That's what I think of all the negative stuff anyone says about anything on FaceBook or Twitter. The people that engage in that usually can't distinguish between the distorted picture that's playing in their head and actual reality.

So next time anyone comes at me sideways on a social networking site all I'm gonna post in response is #TalkToMeInPersonSoIKnowItsReal otherwise Shut The Fuck Up

Easter in LA

CaliRadio hosted its annual Easter Egg Hunt and Picnic at Kenneth Hahn Park today. And .... Me being new to CaliRadio and a event planner and party stylist myself. I must admit I had my doubts at first. See CaliRadio is young and fresh and the primary focus is Great Music. So I wasn't so sure a hand full of people could pull off such an event. Yes, I know they did it last year, but I wasn't there. I couldn't give it that "SeeBries" stamp of approval off of what I heard. I needed to see for my self.

If you weren't there today, I must say, I was overly joyed! I was elated to see such an amazing force of goodness for the sake of the community. It wasn't a frowning child there. Or a pissed off grown up complaining. It was almost blissful. All of the CaliRadio team was assigned different jobs and the way it was executed, it all came together beautifully. The CaliRadio girls worked tirelessly at making baskets and decorations. The men were in charge of the BBQ (of course). We had kids, and Grand parents, Moms and Dads, aunties and uncles brought their nieces and nephews. It was great. The weather was perfect. DJ Cali Slimm and DJ Money had the music on point. West West & Sky manned the grill. Party man was being, well, party man. Gruesome played football with the boys. While the kids played on playground, the adults played Dominos and spades. My closes friends came out to support. My family was there. I got to see my nieces Aaliyah and Dee Dee who I don't see as often as I should. CaliRadio artist like TMarie and Kaze Fam, IV League, Patron Poke and Francodagawd all brought their families. Ok side note, I think McCall Hall and TMarie are winning my heart with the most adorable nephew contest. I wanted to keep both of them. CaliRadio gave out Easter baskets and prizes and candy and food. All of which was free for every single child that was there. I am so proud to be apart of this event.

Its official! The Easter festivities has the "SeeBries" stamp of Fabulousness! I promise you next year will be that much more successful and that much more Fabulous!

Thank GOD to everyone that donated time, money, and resources to make sure CaliRadios 2nd Annual Easter Egg Hunt and Picnic was a success. This was a total family event, and that's exactly what it felt like being there, Family!

Hope you all have a Happy Easter.

Redemption

Why is it that when I see a sad story on TV, I always find some kind of redeeming quality about the character. Don't matter how fucked up they are I feel sad or empathy for whatever it is that they are going through. However in real life if it were the same story line going on with someone I know, chances are I would cut all ties because of stupid behavior. Y'all know I am a strong advocate of not judging any one for what they choose to do or how they do it. Hey it ain't my life. I make and live with my decisions good, bad and ugly. Some people might call my actions or behavior stupid, but I would never dare let MY stupid behavior affect them, or infringe on their life. My own personal issues I struggle with everyday are just that. Mines! See my redeeming quality is that I learn. I evolve. I grow. I've been there and done that. There's a saying "I'm old enough to know better, but young enough to do again!" The reason I love that saying so much is that its OK to do "it" again. As long as the formula you use when presented with the problem that arose the first time is different. We can't keep doing the same things the same way and expect something different. Or just out right do something wrong and disrespectful, and expect to come out winning. Even if you do something harmful to someone with out any malice behind it, if it keeps happening its still not right. You are wrong. Nothing about that is redeeming.

This week tells the story of the last days of Jesus. From his celebrating Passover to the betrayal of a friend to his trial and eventual conviction and crucifixion. Whether you think this is just another movie on TV or believe these were actual factual events. We can all learn a lot from someone that always finds a redeeming quality in people. He did after all forgive Judus. I'm just not quite there yet.

Happy Passover or Easter! Enjoy your Holiday!

Perspective

This last week the subject of a young 17 year boy that was killed has been the talk everywhere. I don't ever comment on things I don't know about or know only bits and pieces of some of the facts. The fact of the matter is that I have been consumed with my own life, I honestly have only gathered what I have from Fox news. Let's be real, they don't really portray my kind in the best light. However no, I am not blind nor am I ignorant to the ways of the world I live in. Even before this unbelievable crime, I think people forget with all the accomplishments us as black people have made in recent history that we are barely a good 2 generations out of Jim Crow. My Grand parents lived it. My mom lived it. Living in East Texas during the 40s & 50s. Its so easy to go through life hustling and moving and partying and being young to not realize that just like my grand mother was on the receiving end of hate. Their are people still living amongst us right now that were delivering the hate. Just like my grandmom taught her children compassion, kindness and forgiveness. Its people that taught their kids the opposite. The after effects of that can be felt TODAY. I had a co worker tell me once that we wouldn't need welfare if it wasn't for all the black people on it. I shut her ass up when I let her know that black people are only about 12% of the population. I made her look it up. You would think when making a dumb ass ignorant statement like she did she would have her facts in order.

The point I'm trying to make is that the fight is long from being over. Especially when you have situations like when a grown ass man feels "threaten" by a little ass black kid with NO weapon. Makes him beg for his life. Shoots him dead. While completely ignoring police orders. In a deep south hick town in Florida. Where the cops dont even follow procedure in a homicide investigation. Where they probably still fly the confederate flag in all government buildings. (OK the flag part is just me saying. I have no proof of that. But I'm willing to put money that some government buildings down there still fly them!) Now I'm no artist, but I think I just painted a clear picture as to why this man is still walking the streets.

I'm just one person and this is my perspective of the world

The Break-Up

As much the hopeless romantic I am (I think because I'm a girl), my Capricorn brain tells me that love is always relative. That means that it is what it is or it ain’t what it ain’t, especially when it comes to relationships. Now when most people speak on love and relationships you think
boy/girl friend or marriage. I'm talking about friendships and family as well. These are the first and, most often, the longest relationships a person has in their lifetime. They create bonds in one’s childhood that groom them for adulthood. Good, bad, or indifferent; sometimes being loyal to one’s detriment. It’s crazy, because in a dysfunctional intimate relationship, everybody and they mama want to tell you just how much better you are than the other person and how you deserve better. How you should get away or how the other party is bringing you down. However, in a friendship, it’s just the opposite. No one tells you not to be friends with a person anymore. Unless a total trust violation occurs (Example: Sleeping with ones mate). You are kind of expected to stay BFF’s for life. No matter where your life takes you, what happens, or how dysfunctional the friendship becomes; you just except that it’s just the way it is and has been regardless if it’s right or not.

I'm a strong believer that a friendship, just as any other relationship, sometimes runs its course; then it’s time to break up. Friendships don't have to last forever. Could you imagine still being with the person, you thought was so perfect in high school, now that you are in your 30s? Even after the trials and tribulations of being an adult have taking over them? Come on! I broke up with a friend once, (OK Twice! There goes that hopeless romantic again. Thinking I was maybe wrong! NOPE!), and all the drama they came with; all the crying, all the bullshit that just always seem to happen to them, and all the "why does this always only happen to me?’s. Guess what? It went away! They were toxic and frankly a headache. The good times became less about us, and more one sided. I wasn't able to share those happy times I was having with them in fear that I was going to be accused of throwing what I was doing in their face. Bottom line, it’s ok to break up a friendship. People grow. Not necessarily in the same direction. I don't judge anyone on how they live their life. It’s just when it comes to someone else's life infringes on your life, not in a positive way, it’s time to move on. There's a saying that if you’re the smartest person in your group, then you need a new group. I was in a meeting today and every person there brought something new, fresh, positive and creative to the table. It was amazing. It makes my decision to get rid of toxic people that much more valid.

I get every day is not a good one and we need great friends around us to help us threw the bad times that are bound to happen to us all; But when you began to bring on the bad yourself, it stops being a friendship and becomes a co-dependency. That's NEVER a healthy relationship Or Friendship!

Self Control - Use it

I want to express my thoughts on self control. Most of you follow me on twitter know that I have given up Beef, Pork, and chicken for Lent. Its been really hard for me, not giving it up, but having very little choices for quick food with the life style I live. I by no means enjoy fast food, but some times its necessary to hit a drive thru and grab something quick. I have almost gave in about 15 times. I have exercised self control. Which is better than I can say about most people. My battle with the food I can and can not eat is nothing compared to things I witnessed this past month. People are so selfish that they can't see beyond the reach of their hand. Everything is instant gratification. Right Now Right Now Right Now! Not giving any thought to the consequences of the actions that they choose. Or even going ahead in spite of the consequences. Expressing NO self control.

I hate to preach. I hate to offer unsolicited advice. All I want people to do is THINK! With my situation with food, I think about how I would feel about myself if I don't complete what I started. I would feel like shit. For lack of a better word. And that's just my own personal guilt. Me not being able to complete this affects no one but myself. However some peoples actions aren't that simple and will affect a plethora of people, on so many different levels. Life is like a chess game. You have to think 4 and 5 steps ahead. Not just right now. Be warned, I will not speak to you after 5pm if you use the term YOLO or express no self control. That's "nigga" thinking.

At some point you have to grow and expand. Yeah on air you might hear CaliRadio joke and laugh and clown. But at the end of the day we are all about business and family and leaving a legacy for the people we love. That in it self takes great self control.

Thank You

I want to take a moment to thank all the readers of SeeBries blog and CaliRadio blog. I’m gonna be real open right now and tell everyone how much I appreciate those of you who listen to CaliRadio and read the blog and follow me on twitter and flow with the movement that is Caliradio. It’s crazy because I find myself encountering people at the nail shop or the post office and I'm putting them on the Cali Radio. Something that my personality would have never permitted before. I tell West West this all the time that I listen to the show as a fan of music. As a fan of the WEST. I'm a LA chick till I die. I have love for everybody that's about something. That's about getting money and about great music and having a good time. That's what got me listening to Cali Radio from jump. I am a fan of great energy. The energy that West, Slim, Party Man, & Grewsum send through my head phones every day is amazing. You can’t make it up. It’s completely authentic. I encourage any one that is a fan of having a great time and great music to listen to Cali Radio. Come hang out at Zen Lounge or follow the movement on Twitter or Facebook. Do a good deed and tell someone to tell someone to come and rock wit us. I promise you, it’s never a dull moment with Cali Radio.

Thank You

The Female MC

I so been in throw back mode, these last couple of weeks. Ya'll follow me on twitter and read the Cali Radio blog, ya’ll know. Music is my LIFE. Those aren't just words that some person put on the website banner. Those are words that (& I'm speaking for ALL of Cali Radios team) we live by. I am however partial to 90s music. I can't help it. It’s nothing like hearing that one song today that defined the summer of Jr year in high school. Hash Tag GoodTimes. LOL People hash tag everything now! Funny!

Anyway, Can anyone tell me what happen to all my female MCs? I mean when I was coming up we had Kim, Foxy, Lauren Hill. Hell YoYo, Lyte and The Queen were still putting out Hits! Tell me yall don't grin big as shit whenyou hear "I wanna be down" rmx? OMG Missy! DaBrat! Later came Eve, Amil and my personal favorite Trina. I'm still mad that I never got to hear the real that Left Eye had to offer. She was in this little box called "Pop" music because of TLC, and never got to fully bloom in as a MC. But the 90s had a full line up of chicks getting it in on the mic. And they were nice. They were truly good rappers. They each had flow and lyrics. They had to be "That Bitch". In a rap world that was dominated by men, the women couldn't be good, they had to be GREAT. Not like now days when a female MC... Wait... Scratch that.... Female "rapper" or whatever gets shine because there aren't any other new females in the game right now.

Of course pork & beans will taste like steak to a starving mutha fucka.

That's just one lil chick from LA's opinion. I won't go hard on people with no talent because; well shit we fall for it. Damn, I guess they do have a talent. The talent of getting over on the record buying public. Meanwhile mofos wit more talent in they little finger can't catch a break. We went thru the whole 2000's with the females from the 90's trying to hold it down. That's great but the
game aint gon last if the torch isn't passed. But that's a whole different blog subject. I just want to let you know, all you talent less, lyrically challenged opportunist devoid of creativity so called "Artist", you are nothing but a 2.0 version of the worst combination of my 90's chicks. They been did that. And I see you!

Shout out to all the new young female MCs that's original and saying something. I got ya back.

That Aint Right!

Hey folks let me school you right quick on Club/Party etiquette. Just because a girl doesn't give up rhythm when you try to holla, doesn't mean she's stuck up or boougie. Look when people in relationships go out to clubs or parties they go to have fun. Not to hook up. I was on air on Friday with Slimm & West and the running theme was boougie women. It didn't help that my cousin Greg was with us and he's from Arizona. & Every time he visits him, myself and Big Brown have debates about women. (At like 6am **Random**)

My point is you shouldn't be looking for anything but a nice time when you go out. You go out to have fun. If anything else comes from it then that's a plus. You go out looking to get females or catch a dude you setting yourself up for failure. You try, she says no, then you want call her boougie. Or you buy a girl a drink and then expect her to leave with you or something. I learned a long time ago, don't do something and expect something in return. Do it because you want to do it. Weather you get something out of it or not. Or in laymens terms you might understand.... Don't gamble with more than you can afford to lose. If you can't afford to be buying 3 and 4 drinks, don't buy the mutha fuckin drinks! It’s your dumb ass thinking that $15 is gonna get you laid. Okay? Okay! Ladies don't go to the damn club expecting to be bought no damn drinks. If you NEED the nigga to buy you a drink not because you feeling him but because you thirsty, that's exactly what you are THIRSTY. You are that same chick that the guys talk about being boougie. On some realness ladies, we are in a recession so if a dude is buying drinks at the bar and not bottles in his private area, it’s safe to say he ain’t BALLIN. Respectfully decline the offer of the drink if you not attracted to the guy or have no intention in giving him any play. Stop being Ratchet and buy yo own fucking drinks. Guys, ya’ll are worst because you're delusional. Money has never brought more problems than pussy. Stop spending money you DONT have on pussy you MIGHT get. You wanna be mad at her because you tricked and didn't get the treat. That ain’t right! Get money. Pussy is sure to follow!

Happy Clubbin!

The Fame Monster

Sitting in a chair at the foot of my sister’s bed. Holding my ear while my niece flat ironed my hair. Then my sister’s phone rang. She yells out “Whitney Houston Died?"

The crazy thing is that I blogged and tweeted about listening to her music last weekend. She's been all over the internet the past couple of weeks and now this. I refer to Whitney as Ms.Brown. Only because I'm a Mrs. Brown and I think I get her. Whereas a lot of people judge her. My twitter time line blew up with "this was a long time coming" and "We watched her spiral out of control for years" comments within that first hour. Whitney did what most women do. Fell in love with a man and contoured her life style to fit his. See that hoodness was always there. It was the glitz, glam and entourage that kept it in check. But that nigga tho? If he was ok with the real Whitney, then it was ok. I say this all the time you can't be in a relationship and not be into the same things. Keep in mind that whatever those “things” were, they were also magnified by them being famous. Being famous didn’t eliminate that hood girl from Jersey. It put pressure on her to be something that she wasn't and no longer desired to be. I get it. Look at Michael Jackson or Eminem. Em is gonna be plagued with the same fame monster forever.

People are thrust into the lime light but are they really ready to deal with all that comes along with it. The most famous people on earth are some of the most tormented souls. I feel like with the internet and magazines and paparazzi that the price of fame today is extremely high. So high that I don't think I myself would be willing to pay. You have to be a certain kind of person to not get caught up in the industry. You know there is no kind of hand book to prepare you for it. Or to deal with hundreds of people camped outside your home. Or not being able to run to store without body guards. Not to mention factoring in kids and spouses. Paparazzi will take it too far sometimes. I’ll tell you right now, if my husband was famous, I would be poppin off all the time. I think that people like Harvey Levin pander people’s lives for profit. No better than a common pimp. Their life is not entertainment. What they do is entertainment. Big difference. But if it was no lane for TMZ, it wouldn’t even be on the highway. I’m not trying to knock nobody hustle. I blame us. The folks that read star and people magazines. Or go on line to Media Takeout, Bossip, and TMZ. Party Man James said I should go on Jeopardy because of how I win Hood trivia and know facts about my city. That’s because I fucking read more than which baby mamas is beefing now.

My thoughts and prayers go out to Ms Houston’s Family. I am Team Cali Radio, but just today I’m gonna dedicate a couple of hours to the greatness the once was.

Sound Track to my Life!

Today was such an epic day for me. I don't know how many people appreciate alone time, but I'm one of those people. If you follow me on twitter, you know my oldies on the surround sound was turned up to ignorant levels all day. With the likes of Ms. Tina Turner, Ms Knight and her Pips, The great Betty Wright, The Magnificent Michael Jackson and the Incomparable Prince. Oh yeah and the former Mrs. Brown (Ha) Whitney Houston. I am one of the few people that actually have a sound track to my life. I am only 30, but I do have about a handful of songs that define my childhood, teens, and twenties. I remember my mom and me singing and dancing to After the Pain by Betty Wright when I was all of 6. My mom still sticks her tongue out when she is feeling her music and dancing. LOL. My first Homecoming dance was in 11th grade, where the DJ ran back Can I get a at least 100 times that night. My twenties were defined by one word Satisfaction. Eve said it all in one line “Separate the girls from the women and I'm winning". My 30s have yet to be determined. I love music. All kinds. From Wu Tang to Elton John. To Mary J Blige right down to Queen. I think that Freddie Mercury was THE best song writer. EVER! He made a 4 act opera into a 4 minute song. If you aren't a fan of Queen, shut the fuck up because you all know they songs. You might not know its Queen, but if I played you a queen song, you would sing along. Prince is the epitome of Greatness! I think El De barge is amazingly poetic. And as a writer, if I had the chance to work with any other writer right now today, I would pick Jermaine Dupri. That nigga still cashing Kris Kross checks. Not to mention JE, Xscape, Bow Wow, oh a lil chick named Mariah Carey-Cannon! The Dream is a very close 2nd runner up. I LOVE MUSIC! However I am partial to my turf. "We Rep the West". Side note yall remember when Ice Cube use to write Easy E rhymes? LOL I used to able to tell who wrote and produced every track I heard. Eric Sermon, DJ Quik, Pharell, Rza, BattleCat. Them BattleCat tracks though? If you have never skated to Kurupt "We can freak it" You aint SHIT! LOL even when it comes to that sex sound track. If you have never had unprotected sex to Forever My Lady by Jodeci, That nigga don't love you. (I wanted to type something else in place of that last line, but I would have been all kinds of wrong for that! LMAO)

Music is life! It defines a culture, a nation, and a person’s sense of self. I think your personal sound track says a lot about you. The songs you choose to high light special events in your life speak volumes. For instance my bedroom sound track includes Tupac. Dont Judge! It starts off slow with the likes of Prince or R Kelly. Maybe some Jodeci and Jagged Edge. Then some mid tempo in the middle with Beyonce and Tupac. Then finish off with something with some bass that knock. Think I aint heard of that by Slim Thug, or 99 problems (Yeah that’s me). Whether you throw on a rap cd to fuck or the Love Jones soundtrack to make love to, may I make just one request? I don’t like getting people business, but no music sucks. And not the good suck. No one wants to hear heavy breathing and bed squeaking. Make the bed room one of those special events. Feel the mood. See what happens. I bet your partner will appreciate the effort.

Great Sex Tonight

Monday, January 30, 2012

I need to start by saying last week I kinda went hard on ladies. I don't know if I was a man in my previous life, my Capricorn thinking or what. As I have gotten older, I try to filter my brain and edit my speech. Sometimes those don’t quite work out. I do need to make one thing clear. I DON'T apologize. Moving on, and keeping with the theme of love. I do want to blog about something we all love ....SEX!

Sex is so important to ones whole being, its crazy. In sex nothing should be off limits. It astounds me at the huge spectrum of acceptable perversions going on in people’s bed rooms. I don't judge, I think it’s interesting and funny. And I believe that a happy sex life makes you a happy person. So do you! When 2 people aren't compatible sexually, what's the point? If no other room in the house, the bedroom has to be poppin! Or everything else goes to shit. Ladies if your man is not trying to fuck you every time he sees you, another ass is on his mind and he's trying to fuck that! I think us girls forget what a commodity we have since other women are so readily available. Even in porn, back when my parents where young it was kinda taboo to do anal. Only a few performers did so. They got top dollar to do it. Now what female performer doesn't? I say that to say, don't think your sex is the end all be all to sex acts. Regardless of how freaky you get, it’s someone out there that's willing and happy to make yo freaky ass look like a prude. Women get caught up in that mind set where they think “he better be happy to get what he get or else he won't be getting nothing!". Yes I admit it, I too have fallen victim to that way of thinking. Didn't matter how bad I wanted my freak flag to fly, no man was privy to that side of me. A lot of young women don't know how to voice what they want in the bedroom because we are taught our whole life to abstain from the bed room. We are taught that Sex=Love. **BREAKING NEWS** No the hell it don't! Sex and love can't be any further away from each other. Sex is an act. Love (or lack thereof) is the intermission between the acts. Don't be mad at the other person because of YOUR comprehension skills and you making things more than what they are. Sex is sex is sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Be smart about who you lay up with. Period Point Blank The END! It’s ok to say no if something makes you uncomfortable. But it’s also ok if you like it. Nothing is wrong with you. If your partner judges you for liking what you like, you need a new partner. Believe me the relationship won’t work out! The right partner will be ok if its missionary or some other shit I can’t even describe. LOL Life if too short for bad sex.

Do me a favor? Have some Great Sex tonight!!!! ;)

Tis the season of Love!

As we exit Capricorn season (January), we enter the season of Love. I, on one hand think that Valentine’s Day is Bull Shit. I mean really, making up in one day what your man/woman should be doing the other 300 some odd days of the year don't cut it for me. Don't get me wrong I love love love flowers and gifts but I don't want anything just because the calendar says its time. I get and give gifts year round. I kinda like the flare for no reason. Let me come home to flowers, balloons and a new bracelet in June. Not because he has to, but because he saw something that he wanted me to have. There will be a lot of insecure chicks all over they "man" (and I use the term loosely) wondering when, where, and what they will be doing on Valentine’s Day. You know them chicks kill me! They are the same chicks that put up with a nigga and all his Bull Shit just to say "I gotta Man". They believe Steve Harvey books are gospel. Use they boyfriend last name, and call him husband. And they blame the other chick for they man cheating and still stay. The same ones that think its ok for a dude to spend hundreds of dollars on them in 1 night but aint paid child support in 8 months. I could go on and on but I digress. I also know everybody aint like me, common sense aint that common, it is what it is, blah blah blah, and it aint easy being green, yeah I get it. Ladies, don't base your entire existence on how a man treats you. It’s not smart. Carrying on any type of relationship with a man and not having a label for it, is not smart. And I hate a dumb ass broad! There should never be a question of what I am to you. A man will inadvertently state his intentions with you from day one. Let's not try and change his stance. It won't work. I guess I go in on women because I hold us to a higher standard than men. We are the superior sex. Knowing how to play our position, when to work it, and when to take the L to make sure it gets worked. It’s definitely a skill you’re born with; or not.

I admit Adult relationships aren't for everybody. Come on now, who would I write about if we were all in respectable mature relationships? But don’t listen to me. I'm drunk half the time and dealing with my own problems the other. I'm just trying to save you some time before next thing you know you checking facebook all hours of the night and creating fake twitter accounts to follow him and the chicks he follow. All I'm saying is one day don't define a relationship. Him actually saying let's be in one kinda does. That's another blog though. LOL No on some real shit, Valentine’s Day shouldn't make it if it’s fucked up or brake what's good. So if all you keep coming up with are complaints, hurt feelings, and disappointment from being dogged out, I blame you! Take some responsibility and get a clue BEFORE you get another man.

Over the next few weeks I will be blogging about relationships and music, since this is the season. If you have any relationship subject you want to hear about. Let's talk hit me on Twitter or email.

We Rep the WEST!

I had this whole blog ready to go and post. Last week, I decided that I was gonna spot light an artist. One of my favorites right now, Nippey Hussle, but over the course of a week things have changed. If you don’t know, I am completely honored and excited to be the first to announce that I am now the official blogger for Cali Radio. #TEAMCALIRADIO I have supported Caliradio from the beginning as a fan of music and the West Coast, my home. Words can’t even explain how I feel right now to be apart of such an amazing team, movement, and family. West West, DJ Cali Slimm, Baby Girl, Party Man James, Classmatic, DJXtreme, I salute you all.

“We Rep the WEST”

This brings me to my change of heart on my original post. As I was speaking to our marking director about my future with Cali radio, she let me know that my blog will be read not only in America, but Internationally. That got me to thinking about what the world thinks about Los Angeles and California as a whole. One of my biggest pet peeves is out of towners’ misconception of my city. Listen folks, perception is NOT always reality. I have heard that LA is fake, LA is bouge , LA is so “Hollywood”, LA is full of nothing but plastic females and wanna be dope boys. Let me explain something to my readers, every other city on earth has all of those things and then some. And for the record LA don’t have dope boys. LA has Hood Niggas and Gangstas. Even among all of that my city is more than good weed. Our music, our food, our people, our weather. Where else can you go from 75 degrees at the beach and within a half hour hit the snow? Los Angeles has so many great things to offer beside that “Hollywood life”. My little area of Leimert Park alone has a farmers market, art galleries, Black family owned businesses and great restaurants. We also host the MLK day parade and festival, Jazz and blues festivals, and the annual Taste of Soul. This is all in one small area of Los Angeles. Lots more happens in Inglewood, Compton, Long Beach, all over. Give us a chance. Angelinos are beautiful people and our struggle is documented. I get that if you didn’t grow up here, you might not know, but don’t judge us when you don’t know us. Or go off of a couple of bad examples in a city of 3.7 million. I would never set foot in any ones home and not be respectful of where they live. I have love for everywhere.

So don’t you dare come to LA and talk bad about MY city. If you don’t like LA, F*** you as a Staff, Record Label, and Mutha f***n Crew! (in my Tupac voice) All I have in the end is my family and where I’m from, and I goes hard for both. You can email me; hit me up on twitter or any of the Cali Radio family if you need to know what’s what in LA. We welcome you to experience OUR LA.

Does selling records keep you relevant in music today?

I love about 90% of 90s hip hop artist. Hip hop was so diverse yet the flow was the same back then. You had rough. You had gangsta. You had love. You had party music. No one rapper was greater than any other leader of each respective crew. Everyone sold records everybody did shows everybody got money. I think maybe, because hip hop as a culture was still forming and
branding itself. It hadn't yet really crossed over to mainstream. It wasn't until the ladder of the 90s or early 2gs that those of us that had been around were able to see the fall from grace that many rappers faced. Companies folding. Music not selling. The internet becoming more influential in the development of acts, all made it harder for a OK artist to stay relevant. For example a rapper that had a buzz in 1996 with no mix tape. No internet. Just maybe a couple of guess spots on ok records. And 1 hot 16 bars on a hit, would have a deal, advance, the hottest management team and everybody wanting them. Back then even the most mediocre rapper was going platinum. 2012 not so much. Artist damn near have to have to touch of GOD himself to go platinum today. And often that's not enough to have a relevant career. Not in the days where rappers are selling more ring tones than records. Nas, one of if not THE best to do it ever! Has never won a grammy. Or a MTV award. And only has 2 multi platinum awards. Ice Cube is the best story teller ever hands down, & can't get air play on a new song in his home town. He only has 1 multi platinum plaque. WTF? Yet these 2 have managed to stay at the fore front of hip hip for years! I believe because they were greats among the great.

Today that’s all different. Even if you have talent, it takes much more than skill alone to maintain a stay in world of music. Not when music is not just music anymore. Music is the biggest product placement whore ever pimped! Every rapper has a clothing line to rock, a bottle to pop, a smell good spray, a book to read, a movie to watch, a credit card to swipe. LOL ok I just through that in there. But I laugh every time I see a RUSH card commercial. Basically music has become the avenue you take to get to “branding”, where the real money is. A rapper can have NO skills, can’t ride a beat, no delivery, no real concept or idea and have a 3 or 4 album career independently. 2Chains, Waka Flaka Flame, Gucci Mane all have a successful relevance in hip hop. Like it or not (Kanye shrug). Albums not selling is by no means going to change that. Numbers don’t matter today! They don’t lie, but they aint everything now. Look at Diddy Dirty Moneys Last train to Paris. The Album didn’t even go platinum. For puff that has to hurt. But I do know that Ciroc has shipped a million cases in 2011. Wiz Kalifah is a great example of how branding and timing play a huge part in ones career. Who knew Wiz before the 2010-2011 football season? I didn’t! He had 2 albums prior to Rollin Papers. In this case it was almost instant that once the Steelers made the playoffs that Wiz was a house hold name and as much as I HATE the Pittsburgh Steelers (Glad they lost this weekend by the way! Team COLTS) I couldn’t get that damn “Black and Yellow, Black and Yellow” out of my head. What this one song meant to a whole nation of terrible towel holders, Disney can’t create that kind of magic. His album Rollin Papers however, has yet to see platinum status. As big as Wiz is now and he cant sell a million albums, its a problem. A big one!

Now I have no issue with up and coming artist getting their money any way they can. My only complaint with the business today is that, some artist that I would love to see become these great entertainers might not be. Nippsy Hustle, Royce da 5’9 both have the talent to be amazing. Royce even has Eminem behind him, and still Bad Meets Evil has only gone gold. Im afraid to say that with only music these 2 artist might stay in the position they are in right now. And relevance fading with every new crop of artist coming up. I hear too much _______ (insert faceless rappers name here) and not enough GOOD MUSIC.

With that being said, I hate to present a problem and not provide a solution. My solution to this problem is if you are a fan of an artist, BUY THE ALBUM! Not the ringtone, not the single, but the whole damn album. Support everything they do. It makes a difference.